My pains.

It’s been a while friends, I’m so sorry but don’t worry I will not stop writing. Today I decided to share something a little bit personal with you my family right here. I hope you enjoy, learn and also give your advice on this. Sometimes I wish I could be robot-like, just as some people would want me to be, someone who would just answer to people without displaying any contrary opinion to theirs. You know, just like in the movie “Robocop”, but I guess even that robot had to rebel at some point when the elasticity limit was reached.

I have always been a good girl, literally, someone who wouldn’t mind letting people have their way even if it would cost me a great deal. I have always made sacrifices for people, people who might not even know it or appreciate it. I guess it’s my personality. However, one thing I observed is that some fellows tend to abuse that love and kindness you show to them, mistaking it for foolishness.

I planned on executing a project, a very good project. I discussed my idea with a friend but I was told, “why not wait for me, if we do it together it would be better.” Although I felt it was long overdue, I waited for my friend. I threw my own convenience into the closet for my own friend thinking the feeling was mutual but I was wrong. Without my knowledge she carried out the project, succeeded and didn’t say a word until I asked her if it was time we started together.

I was stunned. I had a mixed feeling of anger and disappointment, but smiled over it and didn’t say a word about it. I went on with the project alone, did some modifications and succeeded as well. I told my friend about the sucess and she got so angry and said that I wasn’t trustworthy and loyal to our friendship. At that point I guess I couldn’t hold it in any longer. I got very angry and for the first time in my life with friends I couldn’t let that pass!

I’m so tired of people thinking their friend understands, that he/she wouldn’t get angry even if they were being took for a ride. No! Everyone has a right to get angry. But the anger should not consume you. Quench it and move on. Don’t turn into a zombie for people to see you as perfect, because no one is! That’s why we are humans dearie. Don’t bottle things up just like me, it could lead to serious bitterness or hatred towards one another. Please say your mind when necessary so you won’t keep hurting yourself.

Well I apologized for getting angry at my friend and explained how badly I felt about her betrayal. I hope she too would understand how hurt I was and hopefully stay loyal next time.
I feel so good telling you all how I feel, I feel so relieved. Pls do learn from my experience and share yours too below.

Much love

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4 thoughts on “My pains.”

  1. Well, its indeed been a while… In my opinion, its ok to be annoyed and angry but its got to be controlled. You don’t have to let another person change your person. If you are good and nice, be good and nice still. It hurts to be betrayed, but its better than being a betrayer.

    Well done.


  2. I feel your pain! I had a very good childhood friend hurt me a year ago. We have known each other since we were four. Soooo I knew that we had to get past it. I mean I guess we didn’t. But she’s had cancer and heck we have been more like family for a half a century soooo I knew I at least had to get over it. It took me a while to want to plan a trip her way after the painful exchange and since we never, ever in all of our years knowing each other had something like that happen before, our friendship had to change. But I think that if you can move on, it is good for friends to be honest with each other even if it takes sharing anger sometimes. I didn’t want to waste too much more space on YOUR blog but if you are interested, I thought you might like to read what I thought I’d share here relating to what you wrote,.
    Keep writing! I love your style!
    Oh yeah here it is:



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